So this week we have been on Spring Break (my son and I). We have been spending lots of time together which I love. We took a road trip to central Texas and we have had many adventures. Today however we took it slow and decided to go to the cinema. At first, we went with the idea of watching Sponge Bob’s new movie but when we got there the waiting time for the next screening was just too much to bear so we had to sit and decide what else to watch.
And then he said “Mami lets just watch Cinderella, I’m sure you will like it” – the kindness in this boy never ceases to amaze me. And so after some consideration, I thought sure why not? Who says boys shouldn’t watch a princess movie (yes, half the world, many important male figures in my life will probably say so too, but so what)
In we went, we sat among many little girls and we watched the newest version of Cinderella. He wasn’t familiar with the story, neither did he know the characters as I did. He struggled with all the deaths in the film. He little eyes watered and he held my hand tightly when Cinderella’s mom died and he was almost angry about her bad faith when her dad also died. He did not believe me at first when I said the step mom was evil (I’m glad he didn’t because that means he hasn’t created any stereotypes around the idea) nor did he understand why the step sisters were so vile.
My boy is kind just like Cinderella, and that doesn’t make him less of a boy. He is into all boyish stuff, obsessed with WWI and WWII. He likes legos and cars, and he is a die-hard Star Wars fan. Yet my boy is so kind he won’t “Kill animals” just to eat them. His compassion is infinite, making him vegetarian by choice. He is kind, opens the door for me, he is kind and worries when he sees me upset for something he knows he didn’t do. My boy is kind and I love him.
After watching the movie my sense of fairness in this world has replenish, and my son’s idea of kindness and courage was pumped up. (also his idea of true love, which we might have to revisit in the future lol)
We believe (him and I) in fairness, and kindness, and in the good in people. We believe in kind words, in affection, and in the power of loving words. We don’t believe in lies, nor in being mean when we are upset… words can hurt more than anything else. And yes we do fight with each other but we never stop caring, as he said the other day “I love you so much that even when we fight I love you” … that my friend is true love.
I can only hope life doesn’t change him, and even if it does I have this version of him now which will be forever my own.