Summer Solstice :: Release your Feminine Fire

Let the sun rise and cleanse your energies. Recharge.

Summer Solstice and femininity – note keyword femininity, not feminism.

First of all, let me start by saying I think people who are against feminism are somewhat missing the big picture. Then again, people who believe feminism is only about painting your armpit hair purple and not shaving your legs are also missing the big picture.

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Being a feminist is to me, to aim for equality, not superiority. It is to cherish, respect and believe in one another equally and in a loving, caring manner. It is not about grabbing pussy’s and making proclamation of arts out of vaginas, no, to me, feminism is about building together pillars of mutual understanding. It’s balance. Patriarchy meets matriarchy and accepts the differences we have and assigns natural order. That said, that is only MY perspective, you don’t have to share it nor have to agree with it… The beauty of the human mind is that we all get to decide what to think and how to act.

 

What does being feminine mean to you? To me, it means being in perfect synch with nature; to understand my cycles and the cycles of the moon because they both work in synchronicity with mother earth. To me being feminine is to be proud of all my curves, proud of all of my perfect imperfections, comfortable in my skin. To me being feminine means, I am not afraid to embrace both the strong and the delicate, the nurturing and the sexual, the peace and the war within me. Because that is what we are; we are an unstoppable force of nature.

“Rituals for the day of longest light date back to ancient times and Stonehenge is one of the most famous sites. Dating back to between 3000-1500 BCE, its main axis is aligned to the solstice sunrise. Many cultures and ethnicities have celebrated, from ancient Roman celebrations of Vesta to feast days in many cultures.”

Summer Solstice (also known as Litha) is a time to celebrate the light of consciousness within ourselves. A time to reflect upon the potential for consciousness to awaken. Yes, awaken. How many of us get tangled in the routine of our daily lives and forget what is like to be awake, truly awake and alive. Fire being the element of the Summer Solstice means this is also a time symbolic of passion, desire, and sensuality burning more intensely within the hearts of both humankind and animal kind. The sun is a warming entity, so it fires our passions and heats up our hearts to the potential of life that abounds. Take full advantage of it.

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Litha: Summer Solstice – 21st/22nd June
Litha (Midsummer, Gathering Day, Summer Solstice, Alban Heffyn, Feill-Sheathain)
Incense: Sage, mint, basil, Saint John’s Wort, sunflower, Lavender
Decorations: Dried herbs, potpourri, seashells, summer flowers, and fruits.
Colours: blue, green, and yellow

Embrace your inner Goddess and release your feminine fire. Dance in the wind, walk barefooted on the grass, and fly like a phoenix.

 

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Xoxo

 

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Yoga for the Warrior Goddess in you #BeBrave

Braless pantless yoga? yes, please!

But, Oh wait! no! cover yourself, girl! pfff… what’s the big deal? If I was wearing a swimming suit twice as small as my underpants and a bikini top covering just my nipples you’ll have less of a problem than you do with a top and knickers? Grow up!

We are body and soul, we are skin and bones and perfectly imperfect curves.

My body is not perfect, but it is mine to love. 

I do yoga for me, not for others. I do yoga because it makes me feel free and in touch with myself from within. Yoga makes me feel in tune with my own awesome badass energy, and at peace. So the question I get: “if it’s for yourself, why do you have t post a picture on social media?” *rolling eyes*

We are in the 21st century and skin is still an issue. We see semi-naked breasts feeding a child and Oh the horror! Go cover yourself girl (what? that is what boobs are for, have you seen other mammals?) To society and all it’s dated conservative views I say “Wake up!” Women, your curves, your skin, your birth marks, your extra rolls, your stretch marks are yours and you do whatever it is you want to do with all that.

The Power of YOU

I am not saying get naked and post it to the world. What I am saying is, let’s try to move away from the preconceptions imposed by society and beauty standards. Let’s allow ourselves to be happy with who we are, inside and out. Trust me this is not easy coming from an introvert but I have learned that I am the only one who has the power to make me happy, and other people’s opinions of me are not my problem. Be the best version of you. Be compassionate, be honest, be transparent (with a hint of mystery) but don’t let anyone tell you that you are not worth it.

Oh, that Hippie Millennial Feminist thing? 
Stop right there and go back to your corner of the world, behind your computer screen and control your trolling impulses. If believing in radical self-love and body positivism makes me a hippie millennial feminist, so be it. Not a fan of labels myself but, hey! Embrace your inner goddess, shine like a star, be your own magical rainbow unicorn under the storm.

Oh! and flaunt those curves!

Namaste!

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Love from Within: Celebrate Loving you this Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day! Whether you are in a relationship or not, Valentine’s gives us the chance to talk freely about love. Some people believe that Valentine’s day today is nothing but another fabrication of capitalism, a commercial holiday that obligates us to buy chocolates and flowers; but to me, any reason to celebrate is worth celebrating. Life is way too short to be bitter about the reasons that prompt an otherwise innocent celebration like Valentine’s. Life is a celebration! embrace it! Or not, it’s entirely your choice. I choose Love!

IMG_1757.jpgHowever, Valentine’s doesn’t have to be all about being in a romantic relationship with someone else. It is that logic that creates Cupido haters in the world. In Buddhist practice, we’re taught to move in the world from a place of inner validation, rather than outer. So let’s use Valentine’s Day as a time to come back to our own hearts—the only place where we will experience true, lasting love. Yes, I have been talking a lot about self-love and Buddhism lately, and it is because I have discovered how important it is to love and respect ourselves both for our wellbeing and the understanding of others. You don’t need to practice Buddhism in order to live some parts of your life under Buddhism – just take what serves you a purpose, and implement it in your daily life.

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Loving kindness, compassion, appreciative joy and a particular form of equanimity are the four kinds of love taught and encouraged in classic Buddhist teachings. None of these are uniquely Buddhist; they are four qualities of heart that reside within everyone, at least as potentials.
Ancient wisdom understood that our true happiness does not rest with others. It comes from within. Acceptance, self-love, confidence and inner strength are the bricks in the path to happiness.

“If with a pure mind a person speaks or acts, happiness follows them like a never-departing shadow.” Buddha

This path to happiness needs to be carved. We live in a society that from a young age teaches us about validation of the group. A society that fills out brains with the utopia of perfection. Being a perfect size, having the perfect hair. We are pressured every day into believing we are not enough. In our failed relationships we are reminded of how we are not enough. We have to make a conscious decision to stop the cycle of self-doubt and build toward our own happiness. We are whole, we are complete, we do not need “another half”. Compassion, empathy, love, are the things that make us beautiful human beings.

“Speak only endearing speech … Speech, when it brings no evil to others, is a pleasant thing.” Buddha

Negative words bring negative actions…
If there is one lesson, just one lesson I want my son to learn from me is to always remain pure of heart and compassionate. Kindness is strongly encouraged in our house and rudeness is never accepted. He knows this. We respect ourselves, we respect each other, and we respect all living creatures.

Respect and love yourself this valentine’s day. Celebrate LOVE from within. Celebrate YOU.

xoxo

Jihane

#IDontDoUgly Anti-Bullying Campaign: The importance of kind words, and positive thinking.

I was recently approached by a PR agency promoting the anti-bully campaign #IDontDoUgly and I immediately knew I had to be part of it.
I have always been an advocate of inner beauty. Be good, do good and you will irradiate good is my motto. My 11-year-old and I live by this rule. Kindness is at the core of our values.

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“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” – Buddha

Positive body image and positive thinking come from a place of acceptance. We can accept we are not perfect and still embrace every single part of ourselves. It comes from a place in which we don’t judge others based on their looks but based on their acts.
Positive thinking is also a learned behavior reinforced by habit. The sooner we learn to turn something negative into something positive, the sooner we can move away from the toxicity negative thinking can bring for us and for those around us.

This message is even more important now, as current times are proving difficult when it comes to accepting each other’s differences. We live in a world too busy focusing on the differences, too obsessed with labeling each other, and too unaware of the power of unity.

“A parent’s words become a child’s subconscious thoughts.” – Jessica Cartwright

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#IDontDoUgly

“I Don’t Do Ugly” is a campaign inspired by cancer patients that curb the hateful insult out of the word “ugly” and transforms it a declaration of independence from the scars of the illness, hurtfulness, and negative purpose. Every day hundreds if not thousands of individuals are bullied one way or another. Domestic abuse doesn’t have to be just physical, a word can hit as hard as a fist; many times psychological abuse can leave scars that run just as deep as the physical abuse.

The hashtag, #IDontDoUgly, isn’t just relevant to cancer patients. People are using it to combat all forms of bullying. Remember, just in case no one has told you today: YOU are not ugly, you are not too fat, too skinny, or too sensitive. You are perfect with your flaws and your lines, your curves your inner light.

“If you don’t learn how to treat society right, nothing else at the end of the day really matters … We’ve got to find a way for people to come back together” -Jason Pinchoff

When Jason Pinchoff suffered the loss of his family, including his mother who lost her battle to breast cancer, the entrepreneur turned his pain into a business plan that would help others as he coped. He created The Linda B. Pinchoff Foundation to raise cancer awareness that not only focuses on not only the patients suffering but the families who suffer with them as well. He introduced the fashion line called A PINCH LIFE® to provide accessories for children in hospitals. His inspiration continued to flourish and finally, he launched the powerful I Don’t Do Ugly anti-bullying campaign with an array of tees and accessories with the slogan on them.

Embrace the power of positive thinking, and remember beauty comes from within.

xoxo

Jihane


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Rethinking Healthy: Your Body, Your Temple, Your Self-Love​ Journey

First of all, I want to say THANK YOU, everyone! for all the support, messages and feedback sent after my last blog post “Unapologetically: Embrace Your Inner Goddess” Your beautiful words made me shine from within.

That post also opened a forum for discussion to introduce my next topic: Positive body image. As women, we are constantly bombarded with messages and propaganda of what our bodies are supposed to look like. We are subject to socially imposed standards of so-called beauty and femininity. Messages of unattainable perfection that are often reinforced by tv, the internet and print media.

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Rethinking healthy: Healthy doesn’t mean skinny. Healthy means you nurture your body with the right foods, you exercise and you connect with yourself spiritually. Healthy means you love and accept your body. Healthy is the balance. Healthy is to be happy inside and out.

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

So please understand one thing: You are beautiful.
If you are athletic, if you are tall, or short. If you are skinny, or fully curved. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

Yes, you have flaws, we all have flaws. Healthy living bloggers like me have flaws. I try to live my life to the best of my intentions, evading chemicals, evading animal cruelty, evading GMOs, and embracing a natural way of living. THAT doesn’t make me perfect either. Because perfection is boring and the last thing I want to be is boring. I am to be ME. Unapologetically and frenetically me. And to me, there isn’t anything healthier in this world than being yourself.

“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”

― Amy Bloom

As women we doubt ourselves too often: Am I pretty enough? Am I skinny enough? am I cute enough? Guess what? You are always enough. And whoever thinks you aren’t enough is not worthy of you, because for those who truly love you love every single part of you, flaws and all.

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It seems to be “trend” for men (boys more likely) nowadays to go into body shaming their ex-partners after separation happens. I have been “victim” of this, and I have heard and seen so many beautiful women out there being shamed for their curves. Please know one thing my warrior goddesses, this is not your fault, this is their bruised male ego showing through. Awaken your inner Goddess and let her break through the fragile male ego. Their issues are not your problem. Be juicy, connect with mamma earth, embrace your voluptuous curves and embrace of your feminine essence, sensuality, and vulnerability.

“Women who love themselves are threatening; but men who love real women, more so.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

You are more than a physical body

A beautiful way to honor your inner goddess and harness her divine feminine energy is to “feel” her beauty.

While lying in bed on your side, run your hands over the curves of your bare skin. Close your eyes and let your other senses awaken as you focus on the beauty that is your gorgeous female body—your hips, your lips, your collar bone, the fullness of your breasts. Feel all of the parts of you that make you a woman.

Fall in love with yourself. Fall in love with all of it and feel the intensity of your goddess energy. You are magic, and you are spirit you are more than just a body. But it is your body your greatest manifestation of femininity. Now take this feeling of “falling in love with yourself” and carry it with you everywhere you go. Anytime you feel like criticizing yourself for not being what a woman “should be” remember you are everything a woman should be.

xoxo

Jihane


Also, I want to thank my Tribe of amazing women for supporting me and for always being there for me. YOU guys rock my world. My anchor, my light. I write this posts for me, but also for you, and for every woman out there. Supporting sisterhood makes us stronger, wiser and hotter. Thanks for the Love. 

Unapologetically: Embrace your Inner Goddess

“Who is She? She is your power, your Feminine source. Big Mama. The Goddess. The Great Mystery. The web-weaver. The life force. The first time, the twentieth time you may not recognize her. Or pretend not to hear. As she fills your body with ripples of terror and delight.But when she calls you will know you’ve been called. Then it is up to you to decide if you will answer.”  ― Lucy H. Pearce, Burning Woman

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Feminine power comes from within. Your inner Goddess is alive and kicking, but everyday life silences her. Don’t forget to be you, unique, unapologetic, crazy, alive.

Unsatisfactory relationships sometimes leave us feeling like we are not enough. Like somehow we couldn’t fulfill someone’s expectations and we are at fault. We do that, us women, we tend to think every failure is our fault. Don’t. Stop the blaming and embrace yourself. Self-love is not selfish, it is necessary. Set an example for others to know the right way to treat you. Grow and let your inner light ignite.

Divine Feminine energy, or Goddess energy, is a subtle yet immensely powerful source of energy in our lives. Without it, we are out of touch with our bodies, our emotions, our dreams, and our mother earth. Without it, we live lives on the surface, pursuing empty goals, ego-centered ambitions and desolate values that are disconnected from the mystery, wonder, and magic of life.

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

Live with intensity. Feel the intensity of your own emotions, for they are Yours. Blocking emotions doesn’t make you stronger, accepting them and dealing with the pain does. Accept and embrace your emotional body, for she is your inner goddess – she is the Source of your Love and your Power. Have you ever been in a situation when someone (Usually a male, usually a partner) tells you that “You are too sensitive”? don’t be ashamed of it, accept it with pride because it’s your inner Goddess showing through. Their “emotional constipation” is not your problem, is theirs.

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Without honoring and cultivating the divine feminine in our lives, we feel incomplete and eternally dissatisfied, pursuing paths that are destructive to the planet and toxic to those we love. Without acknowledging and nurturing the feminine energy within us, we are incomplete and our lives feel superficial. And it is then when we come up with ridiculous phrases such as “finding your other half”. We are born whole, we are whole and complete, we don’t need to find our other halves.

Sexual Energy and the Feminine Power

Our sexual energy is our life force – it is the pulse of ecstatic energy moving through our bodies throughout our lives, supporting our health, creativity, and longevity. Don’t ever be afraid to embrace your sexuality, never be ashamed of admitting what you want and what you need.

“Nurturing our bodies through Sacred Sensual Self-Care is a priority for empowered health.”

Honoring who you are on a deep sexual level can be extremely difficult. Even more so when we carry social taboos embedded in us by centuries of ancestral guilt, depravity, and repression. But the truth is that you are a sexual being, and being a sexual being is not “wrong,” “dirty,” or “immoral” as we have been so often taught. Instead, our sexuality carries an immense source of creativity, power, and energy which is a potent force of nature, and literally motivates the majority of life on earth.

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“She had power over the most magnificent forces on Earth, but she still didn’t feel like she had power over the most important thing of all—her own heart.” ― Josephine Angelini, Goddess

Let your inner goddess warrior free to roam. Be kind, be the rainbow, be the God damn light.

Xoxo

Jihane

Dealing with Anxiety, And How to Work with it Naturally

2017 is here!

And I am back to blogging! Hello, World!
I took a break from blogging, I was burnt out with all the writing, hectic social media, networking and was dealing with some personal issues. I needed time to find peace and balance within myself.

Anxiety is a horrible thing. I needed some time to decompress and deal with the anxiety I was feeling. Funny thing for the longest time I never knew that feeling on my chest, that constant worry and lack of appetite were anxiety. It wasn’t until I was talking with my mother one day, and I mentioned it, that she finally gave me a name for it.

2017 to me represents to me a whole lot of changes, and that can be overwhelming and scary. However, I believe that whenever something feels scary is when I have to do it the most! So ready or not the time is NOW. I have lived in Houston, Texas for 6 years now. I got married earlier 2016 and thought my life was taking a turn – and it did – but in a different direction. Life doesn’t often go the way we plan, and that is ok. I am now once again ready to embark on a new journey, alone with my son, back into the unexpected just like we did when we moved from the UK to the USA in 2010.
I am excited, I am scared but more than anything I am determined.

Back to the Anxiety:
So, I decided to take a natural route to solve my problem. I threw myself into daily yoga and meditation, and I tried to understand the root of my feelings. And I found myself, and the core of my peace. Happiness is a personal choice, and it is dependent only on us and no one else. Sometimes we lose ourselves in the daily routines of our life and we forget about that inner fire that makes us who we are. Don’t let life dull your light. We can be mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, wives. We can be entrepreneurs, writers, lovers. We can be so many things but don’t forget to above all be YOU.

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Deal with it, Don’t Ignore it!

Whatever it is that is bothering you, deal with it. Feelings don’t go away they only get more intense. Understand what you are feeling and allow yourself to break apart – and then build yourself back up from the ashes.

Some natural “remedies” to help you ease the anxiety:

– Yoga: I cannot stress enough how important Yoga can be for you if you are feeling anxious, or nervous. Learning how to breathe and how to understand your body can help you regulate your moods, and it also leaves you feeling relaxed and refreshed.

– Chamomile Tea: Some compounds in chamomile (Matricaria recutita) bind to the same brain receptors as drugs like Valium.

– Green Tea: Research shows that L-theanine helps curb a rising heart rate and blood pressure, and a few small human studies have found that it reduces anxiety.

– Exercise: sounds cliche, but yes! a simple 2mile run or walk outdoors can do wonders for your body and mind. “If you exercise on a regular basis, you’ll have more self-esteem and feel healthier,” says Drew Ramsey, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital, Columbia University, who blogs at http://www.DrewRamseyMD.com.

– Lavander essential oils: with an oil diffuser, infuse your room with some lavender. Lavender has been also used internally for mood imbalances such as anxiety, insomnia, and gastrointestinal distress.

– Writing, painting, drawing: all these activities can release stress, and can also make you forget about your problems for a while, giving you some much needed relieve.

Check out this video with a simple Yoga session to relieve stress and anxiety

If you are suffering from anxiety, consider natural ways to take control. Speak to a friend (I am SO grateful for the network of amazing friends I have and are always there for me) Or take time out, whatever works for you. I had to do both.

Just remember anxiety is nothing but fear of the unknown. Embrace the future with all its challenges, I promise you, I’ll be alright.

xoxo
Jihane